Where to start
Most couples begin with their home parish or a denomination they grew up in. If you don't already attend a church, expect to either become an attendee for several months or work with one that openly welcomes outside couples. Use our directory to find churches near you.
By tradition
Catholic
Catholic marriage is a sacrament. Expect 6+ months of preparation, including Pre-Cana classes, paperwork, and meetings with a priest. At least one partner usually needs to be a baptized Catholic, but interfaith marriages are allowed with permission. The wedding itself can be a Mass or a simpler ceremony.
Eastern Orthodox
The Orthodox Crowning ceremony is profoundly symbolic. Most Orthodox priests require both partners to be baptized (or willing to be received), with a meaningful preparation period.
Mainline Protestant
Lutheran, Methodist, Presbyterian, and Episcopal churches commonly host weddings for members. Premarital counseling — typically 4–8 sessions with the pastor — is standard.
Baptist & non-denominational
Many Baptist and non-denominational churches will marry attendees but vary widely in policy. Expect at least a few counseling sessions.
Costs
- Sanctuary use fee. Often $300–$2,000+, depending on the church and whether you're a member.
- Officiant honorarium. $200–$500 is typical.
- Musicians. Organist, soloist, or worship band — separate fees apply.
- Sound, custodial, and security. Often built into the package.
Common requirements
- State marriage license
- Premarital counseling (most denominations)
- Membership or active attendance (varies)
- Baptismal records (for Catholic and Orthodox)
Tips for choosing a wedding church
- Visit on a Sunday before booking — does the worship resonate with you both?
- Ask early — popular churches book 9–18 months out.
- Be honest about beliefs and questions — pastors prefer transparency.
- Tour the sanctuary at the time of day you'd hold the wedding to see lighting and sound.
Historic churches
Many couples dream of a historic church wedding. These venues book years in advance and often have stricter policies, but the photos and atmosphere can be unforgettable.